Tips & Truths in Trying Times: Everything is weird & unfamiliar right now.

I think it’s ok to not be ok right now.  I mean in the “safest” sense of that statement.  I think it’s ok to not be ok with the feelings of being confused, in the unknown, temporarily stuck in the weirdness zone.  I hope you know what I’m getting at.

 

There is no manual on how to feel right now.  There are definitely “rules” on what TO DO/DO NOT DO right now and I hope you are all strictly adhering to these just as we are.  But those damn feelings!  It’s like a roller coaster.  We are all wired for human connection so that’s been the biggest adjustment for us.  We feel cut off from people and we need that social interaction – more than we realized.  Zipadeedoodah for technology and using it safely and wisely (be educated on the platforms you choose) right now to help keep us all keeping on and somewhat connected.  It’s definitely not a substitute…..we and many others still feel “out of touch” – literally.

 

As we all “learn to be still” in our own unique way and navigate through these feelings of “not ok”, some gifts emerge.  Appreciation, opportunity and human kindness stand out for us.  Celebrate the gifts you are noticing however small they may seem.  Get creative in learning/practicing something you simply had no time for before, many of us have that “time” right now.  In the 21 days it takes to form a “good” habit, you will have totally incorporated it into your routine!

 

As always, please send your heartfelt gratitude and appreciation to those working tirelessly during these challenging times.  Post shout-outs on social media, be a positive force in the world, reach out to people with encouragement, phone people especially those you haven’t spoken to for a while, be informed/be respectful/be responsible/be safe, represent, be mindful and soon your feelings will undoubtedly shift to better than OK.

 

In closing, how about an awkward “Isolation Tale”?  You may recall my story in blog #2 about our 425 sq. ft. cozy living space and how awesome my hubby and I are coping & getting along.  How things change in 3 short days.  Here’s our new time-out space on the lanai……..a cozy tent fort (he was guest #1):

All kidding aside, remember the healing power of laughter…………even if all you do is laugh at yourself!

 

Thank you for reading this to the end and for keeping yourself and others safe.  Together we are so much stronger.

In gratitude,

Caron

 

Day One or One Day??

DAY ONE or ONE DAY?

I saw this quote recently and it really made me stop and think.  It made me think about life and taking action (or not) and the possibilities/opportunities that could bring.

A week ago I competed in our Toastmasters division contest after placing 1st in our local Club Contest the week before that. I was awarded 1st place for Speech Evaluation at the division contest. I’m sharing this story not because it was easy but because I took the chance, the leap & continue to face my fear of public speaking. I have written often about my Toastmasters journey because it’s a testament to taking action on something that is in the back of our minds, despite the fear.

 

I didn’t want this to be a “One Day” deal…..one day maybe I’ll do this…..maybe one day this might happen….maybe one day I’ll be strong enough….maybe one day I won’t worry so much about what others think…..wouldn’t it be great if…..so I consider it a “Day One” deal.   “One Day” is about dreaming but “Day One” is about dreaming AND taking action.

Day One” is the start of positive change!  Whatever that looks like to you. Think of the possibilities for positive change – personal wellness, self development, taking action on a dream (or facing a fear), learning something new, stepping back from people who don’t support/encourage you, living boldly, being “YOU” and loving “YOU”.  You’ve so totally got this!  Trust me, I still am basking in the fact that I not only joined Toastmasters, but that I am now entering contests.  And yes, I am still nervous every time; I just do my best to happily redirect that into focus and strength.

I have many other personal stories about the life-changing power of “Day One“.  It all begins with “Day One”.  Remember, it’s never too late!

 

To your “Day One” & the possibilities for you,

Caron

 

Join us March 24-27 in Naramata, BC, Canada for a “Spring into Action” Retreat

After all this time dreaming and talking about it…………I’m finally putting on a retreat March 24 to 27 in Naramata, BC.  I’ve partnered up with my friend, Jeanni, who is lovely and full of life and we’re doing this and I would soooo love for you to join us!
The theme of the event is “Reflecting, Feeling, Connecting, Healing“.  The agenda is full of events, activities, presentations (and free  YOU time) to help anyone bring more of this into their life regardless of where they currently are in their journey.  We have lots of learning, growing and FUN planned and we are so thrilled for this opportunity.
I hope you will consider joining us (bring a friend/relative to share the experience with)!  We’ve been mindful of budget and have included absolutely everything in the price of $577 (other than getting here ).  Included are your accommodations for 3 nights (double including a private washroom – single available for a higher price), healthy meals/snacks, registration, a welcome gift, retreat materials including many inspirational keepsakes created by YOU for YOU, oodles of goodness, and JOY.  This truly is an “all inclusive” event ��
It would be a great road trip but there are several daily flights to and from Calgary, AB to Penticton, BC.  Naramata is very close and we will arrange to get you there.  The setting/venue is serene and breath-taking and is located along the Naramata Bench Road, which is abundant with wineries, vineyards & orchards and the weather will be incredibly amazing at the end of March!
So something awesome for you to think about.………….I would love to share this experience with you my friends!
With love, aloha and wishes of all things good,

Caron

Face your fears! My story of “Don’t Hold Back”…….

Today, I am sharing a story with you of how facing our fears can bring about the most unexpected and incredible experiences.

The graphic I have attached may be a bit difficult to read so I’d like to share my story.  Because my story can be anyone’s story.  Of that, I am sure.

I’m sure you have heard the saying that the biggest fears for most people are death and public speaking.   Harsh? Maybe.  Certainly not the case for everyone, but I suspect it is for many, many people.

For a  majority of my life, I was an introvert.  I was rather shy and quiet.  I would certainly be the last one to speak in class while at school (do not make eye contact and you won’t be asked!).  I was always intimidated about what others thought of me and anything remotely associated with speaking in public was as far on the opposite end of my comfort level as one could possibly get.  Even sharing this with you brings back those feelings and emotions.

As an adult, this fear still existed.  As I became more comfortable with my purpose, passion and self, the fear of “speaking up” took more of back seat but it was always lurking around, yes lurking, ugh.  This is why it came as such a surprise to me when I was given the opportunity to present a motivational program to health care employees about 5 years ago and……..I was excited.  The thrill of the opportunity to spread a message of hope, healing and  inspiration to people over-road my fear of speaking.  I had found my calling and something that brought a spark of “what if” to my world.   It was a year after this that I decided to start my own business, A Good & Kind Company, which was in perfect alignment with not only my personal values but also with what I feel the world needs right now.   We need more kindness, compassion, non-judgement, love, peace, gratitude, fun, joy and laughter.   We need it because a lot of the things that we are doing is not working.    We see signs of unhappy people everyday, everywhere we go.

In November 2013, I traveled to Boston to become certified as an Infinite Possibilities trainer, a program developed by Mike Dooley.  Mike is well known as an international best selling author and speaker, from his appearance on “The Secret” as well as his daily “Notes from the Universe”.  While at this event, we were encouraged to sign up for Toastmasters which would provide us with confidence, the ability to connect with an audience and more effectively share our message.  I clearly remember immediately thinking that NO, I was fine and would not need to join.  Thank you anyways!

About a year later, Rob and I secured a one year work visa for Hawaii, yes Hawaii.  This is another story of a life-changing adventure, which I will be sharing.  I worked diligently on my business while there, writing, networking and developing strategies.  I often thought about speaking and that excited me.  Toastmasters popped into my mind one day and by then it was June; our visas expired in October.  I decided to make the call.

The next thing I knew, I was at my first meeting in Waikiki!  I was warmly greeted, got settled in and felt very comfortable.  I wanted to clarify that I would not have to speak and I was assured that  I would be fine.  Things were looking good until…….I was called up to speak during the Table Topics session.   Two things happened after that:  I made them laugh and I won the award for the most “ahs” and “ums”.   I joined Toastmasters then and there.  My next decision surprises me to this day.  I had three months until we would be returning to Canada and I decided to finish my Competent Communicator manual during this time.  That was 13 weeks to finish 10 speeches, which meant I had to speak at almost every meeting!  Don’t hold back Caron.  I presented this to my club and thank them to this day for being flexible and accommodating my goal.  There is no turning back now Caron, let’s get at ‘er!

I did finish my manual, I was nervous giving every speech, I did receive great feedback and support to help me in my speaking journey, and I absolutely did face a huge fear.  Good grief, looking back I would have never thought I would have done this.  The ripple effect of “not holding back” has been incredible.  I was honored last November by receiving the club’s Outstanding Toastmaster award.  I have confidence and continue on my Toastmasters journey in BC.  I have the proof and validation that anyone can face their fears.  No matter our age, our situation, our limiting beliefs or what others think.

Last month, my Waikiki Toastmasters story was featured in the Member Achievements Section of the Toastmasters International magazine.  How exciting, what a journey for me and what a message of hope for absolutely anyone else.  I encourage you to simply believe because the only one holding us back is ourselves.

 

To facing fears, growing and moving forward,

Caron

Join us October 29 in Penticton, BC for a Psych-K Funshop!!

For anyone in the southern BC, Canada area, I would love for you to join my friend Jeanni and me on Saturday, October 29 in Penticton for a day of learning, healing and fun!

 

We will be presenting a Psych-K funshop at the beautiful Leir House at 220 Manor Park Avenue from 10 am to 4 pm.  Together, we will discover a simple and easy process to identify our limiting beliefs, move past what has been holding us back and give life changing results.  How can it get any better than living our best lives NOW……despite who we are, where we are or what has brought us to our current situation.  You can live the life you dream of NOW.   Psych-K principles can help and we are so grateful, excited and blessed to be able to share this with YOU.

 

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Please call either Jeanni or me for more information or to register.

 

We are truly looking forward to to having YOU join us, there is no better time than now!

 

Together in good changes,

Caron

Grow with the Flow!!

I am sure you have heard the expression “go with the flow”………just taking things as they come with a sense of acceptance, ease, calmness and perhaps, complacency.  Ridin’ along the wave of life!
 
I bet you have also heard the expression “it is what it is”.  I’m not even 100% sure what this means except that I hear it very often.  I hope this expression doesn’t mean we can’t experience life differently or put another way, change the way we think?  Maybe we can learn from “what is” by taking time to be quiet, listen and watch.  What can we learn when we step back from “the wave”?  The people, the situations, the actions, the reactions, the deeper meaning, the truth, the connections, the purpose and the lessons.
 
We have such power in our own thoughts, words and deeds.  Pause when you need to, honour yourself, know that you are doing the best you can with where you are and what you know.  Be kind to yourself and trust your journey.  LEARN!  Refresh, rethink, redo, revive – grow with the flow of life!
 
Harness the positive love, light and kindness from those who cross your path and silently offer some of this energy to those in need.  The unseen exchange (let’s call it “flow”) will gift you with peace and happiness and will most likely affect another person in miraculous and totally awesome ways.
 
Here’s to your unique journey which includes a first class ticket and front row seat to growing with the flow!
 
Together in “the flow”,

Caron

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