Yep, we all face challenges…..every single one of us. Although we may feel lost during these times, our challenges connect us as human beings. You are certainly not alone.
When we are in the midst of a crisis, a hardship or an obstacle, we can feel very isolated, very afraid and very frustrated. In a busy world that presents us with an overload of help and healing strategies, it can be overwhelming to find our way or sift through solutions in a rational way (at least, initially).
I am going to provide you with some simple suggestions that
have helped me and many people close to me cope with challenges.
Even those who appear to have “everything”, are always happy, got it going on, and riding the wave of awesome have problems. No one is immune from something coming their way that is unexpectedly challenging! I’m sure that either you or someone you know has faced at least one and possibly several of these situations: relationship problems, insecurity issues, financial trouble, health challenges, feeling stuck, looking for purpose, work overload, frustration with career or lack of, regret, anger, resentment, loss of loved one, fear of what others think, depression, substance abuse, lack of motivation, fear of change, fear of staying the same, growing older, not growing up quick enough, kids leaving home, kids coming back home, losing possessions, having too many possessions. Just to name a few!
Quite often, small and simple changes can help us to find our way. Here are some suggestions that have helped me and many people close to me cope with our own challenges/situations/roadblocks/issues:
- Allow yourself to experience the emotions, feelings and thoughts associated with the challenge you are having. Don’t suppress or hide them…….because they will come out at some point. Honour and respect how you are feeling.
- Reach out to someone you can trust. Even if it’s just so that you can talk, vent or have your voice heard. Let that person know that it’s okay for them to just listen and that you need a sounding board.
- If you are looking for advice or to brainstorm with someone, reach out for that purpose as well. Again, someone you can trust. There may be people who unexpectedly reach out to you to provide comfort, or to listen or to be there for you – if it feels right, let them in!
- Be upfront with people who do not have your best interest at heart or who are abrasive, non-comforting or when things “feel off”. Trust your judgement.
- Allow yourself to be in a quiet place, outdoors in nature is best. Just be still, let whatever thoughts float through your mind to just come in and out, silence can be very healing. If you are indoors, limit distractions (TV, social media, etc) so that you can experience stillness. If music helps, let the tunes sooth your soul.
- Pay attention to your breathing. Deep, deliberate and slow. Be mindful of the in and out breaths – “in” with “clarity & light”, “out” with “confusion & darkness”.
- Sometimes, taking one day at a time is best. It may be over-whelming to make long term plans or have a strict timeline depending on the challenge you are facing.
- Celebrate your progress or accomplishments at moving forward, however small it may seem – please do this! Even if you are taking the “one day at time” approach. CELEBRATE & ACKNOWLEDGE!
- Appreciate the people you have in your life, those who support you, encourage you and want to be in your circle of healing and support.
- Write in a journal – your feelings, your emotions. Just let the words flow – don’t worry about it making sense. Carry it with you to capture your thoughts passing through, especially when you don’t feel like talking to anyone or when there is no one around for you to talk to. Writing in a journal is very therapeutic.
- Exercise or get active however you can: walk, skip, run, hike, cartwheel, QiGong, somersault, dance, yoga, hula, hula hoop, pick your own favourite!
- Visualize your situation differently – how that feels, how it sounds, how it looks…….everything about it. Just visualize, dream, believe (whichever word resonates best with you). Visualize regularly and then take action. Taking action may include really small steps, just take action regardless.
- Do not judge anyone and how they are handling their life situations, just as you would not want someone to judge you. We all react differently, we all have different support systems, we all are on this journey together – BE KIND.
- Access books, podcasts, websites, webinars, counsellors, etc that provide you with direction and guidance. Many of these resources are “FREE”!
- You may find that some of the people who want to support you have the same or similar issue facing them. You may also find that you are offering support to another person. You may just find that as you support and encourage this other person, that you have found the way to effectively handle your own challenge. Yes, life can work in miraculous and magical ways.
- PS – hugs work wonders!
Some challenges are very serious and require the expertise of trained professionals. Please ensure that you reach out and get the support you need in a timely manner. They are there to help you!
I thank you in advance for sharing this article and I hope that something I have mentioned helps you or someone you care about.
As always…..together in the journey,