We’re together in this.

Friendly & safe greetings to each and every one of you:

What better way to restart a blog then during a global pandemic.  I have no excuse for the lack of consistency & communication other then it was maybe time for me to press pause, rethink and reset.  I suppose like many of us right now.

There is no handbook or manual on how to handle the situation we are currently in.  These are certainly unprecedented times.  Filled with a mixture of fear, chaos and of course panic.  Everything changes daily and these struggles are all too real.  Vulnerability, unemployment, economic downturn, uncertainty, rapid changes, new way of doing everything, the list goes on.

Every single one of us has or will react differently to the situation we are all in. In our own family, there have been different reactions and responses to all this – we all cope differently.  What is important is to be honest and transparent with how you are feeling.  We should not be judgmental ever, but especially now when people need to feel safe expressing their fears.  Try to be compassionate and empathetic with others. We are all going to need each other more than we have ever realized.

We all have a duty to be informed, diligently responsible, respectful and SAFE right now.  There are an incredible number of people who are working tirelessly in health care/essential services to help those who need it most.  Not to mention those who are going above and beyond to keep the grocery, fuel, transport, delivery & other necessary services available.  We all need to be grateful daily for these individuals.  If you’re one of them, GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

And as always, amidst all the fear and chaos, something beautiful surfaces.  We see signs of optimism and hope.  There are so many inspiring acts of kindness……people trying their best to cope and along the way, delivering some goodness, fun and joy to the temporary difficult situation we are all in.  We all need to be grateful daily for these individuals too.  If you’re one of them, GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

I do not have big answers to any of this.  I seriously do not.  I can default to being hopeful, grateful  and kind.  That’s what I choose!

Thank you for reading this to the end and for keeping yourself and others safe.  Together we are stronger – we truly are.  I’m very grateful for YOU.

Together & grateful,
Caron

 

Tips to help you keep goin’ and growin’ in your journey….

Have any of you noticed how many people are struggling right now?  Whether it’s dealing with challenges, obstacles, frustration, feeling stuck, financial hardship, anger, regret….you name it.  I have noticed.  I have faced a lot of these things too.  You’ve no doubt heard the saying that when one of us hurts, we all hurt.

 

I’ve had to learn some hard lessons.  I’ve written a lot about celebrating the contrast; we cannot appreciate light without darkness, joy without sorrow, success without failure.  We cannot fix everything or everyone.  At some point in our lives we all make poor choices and decisions and experience “shoulda/woulda/coulda” moments.  We question some relationships and ponder over people’s behaviors.  WHY?  WHY?  WHY!!!

We all have a lot in common don’t we?  Once we engage in honest and authentic conversations with people, we realize how very much alike we are.  We are definitely not alone and that it comforting.  I have discovered some things (FREE things!) that have significantly helped me and continue to help me as I navigate along and make the best of my journey.  Here is what I have learned:

 

  1. We can always learn and grow.  We all stumble, we all fall.  Never stop improving yourself.  EVER.
  2. We have control over something powerful……our thoughts, our words, our actions and our reactions.  Choose wisely and carefully.
  3. Everyone is doing the best they can with what they know and where they are.  Think about that.  We are all together in this journey, YES, but we are all unique.  Do not judge.  Respect one another.
  4. Optimism and gratitude are game-changers and create magic & miracles in transforming our lives.
  5. People are craving to be noticed.  A smile, a gesture, a sincere “hello” can change someone’s day or future.  Again, we cannot fix everything or everyone but we can influence hope and connection with kindness and compassion.   Even to those who we may think deserve it the least.  Again, refer to #3.
  6. People change, relationships change, it’s okay.  Celebrate the good memories, learn from the not so good, bless everyone and carry on.  Regret and resentment serves no one and takes up space in our heads.  Put a reserved sign on that valuable parking spot for goodness and growth.
  7. Celebrate the contrast!  Learn from mistakes and challenges, go forward the best you can through obstacles, grow, be better, be stronger.
  8. Trying new things adds major fun, whimsy and excitement to life.  Take that class, join that group, volunteer for that organization who needs you, learn that instrument, dance in your kitchen, wave to random people, sing in the grocery store…..you get the picture!
  9. Keep dreaming BIG, keep believing BIGGER, and by all means take action (BIGGEST) or that dream forever stays in your head.  Even if things do not go as planned, you tried and you will without a doubt……learn, grow and know!

 

Your journey.  The story of YOU!

 

In celebration, joy and love,

Caron

 

PS – YOU are definitely not alone….

 

It’s a small world after all…….

Love it, like it or somewhere on the opposite end of the spectrum, the song “It’s a Small World” written by the Sherman Brothers for Walt Disney’s attraction of the same name is claimed to be the most performed and translated piece of music on earth.  To that, I say wooohooo, haha and zip-a-dee-doo-dah!!

 

I am going to admit that It’s a Small World is one of my favourite Disney rides.  It never ceases to make me tear up, hearing these lyrics (yes, over and over and over again during the 15 minute or so ride) sung by animated dolls in their native language and seeing all the different countries represented with traditional costumes and unique cultural items.

Small World

The overall theme of the attraction is that of global peace and unity.  I’m sure most of you would agree that we need that more than ever in the world.  I recently read a statistic that stated there are 20 million people talking about what’s wrong in the world and approximately 2 million talking about what’s right.  How someone came up with those numbers, I’m not sure.  What it does indicate and I both hear and see signs of this far too often, is that many of us focus on the negative instead of celebrating the positive.  I am not saying there are not serious issues in the world; we all know that there are.  But by focusing on optimism, hope, love and compassion, and taking action with those values, we can create really good changes.

 

We are all so connected, there’s so much that we share and many of us forget that.  We get wrapped up in chaos that we sometimes create ourselves; in our lives of stuff and more stuff; we judge without seeking to understand; we don’t enjoy the present moment because we are focusing on the past or the future.  We forget that today is a gift, to be grateful, that goodness and kindness transforms lives, and that the people who cross our paths are just…..like……us.  They have stories and struggles.  They laugh like us, they cry like us, they have fears like us and they have hope like us.

 

Despite the fact that mountains divide and oceans are wide, how often have you heard it said that it’s a small world?  I bet that most of you have at some point in your life with the people you have met or situations you have been in.  The kindness of strangers, or you meet someone who knows someone you know or has been somewhere you have been, or you cross paths with someone who has common interests, or your heart and soul is captivated, and perhaps changed by the stories of another person, group of people or culture.

 

I am going to close today’s writing with this powerful and amazing statement…….a smile means friendship to everyone.  What’s really awesome is that a smile is free, costs nothing, zippo, totally BONUS.  It’s the best accessory that any of us can wear and definitely a gift we give another person (plus it makes us feel super dooper happy!)  A smile is an international sign of peace and friendship.  It crosses all language barriers, generations and cultures.  So go on, give it a try.  Smile more often than you do now at those amazing people who you encounter today.  Be that “good change” the world needs because it truly is a small world and we are all in it together.

 

To global peace, love and good changes,

Caron

 

It’s not over yet baby:   I bet, I just totally bet you were either singing or humming “It’s A Small World” while reading this story.  Come on, admit it.  And right now you’re smiling, because you feel really, really gooooooood.   And yes, I bet the song is stuck in your head now……you may as well just keep singing it my friend…….just go with it………just go with it all!   You’re welcome 🙂

Choose to “BE THE GOOD”.

Good things happen in our own lives, around us and out in the world every day.  Focusing on what is good in our lives is a very healthy habit…and it sure makes the challenges easier to deal with!  Purposefully looking for and acknowledging the positive creates a shift in how we see situations, including our own.  It affects our thinking, our behaviour, our actions and ultimately, our lives.  Following this practice does not mean that we won’t experience setbacks of any sort, it means that we purposefully choosing to live and THRIVE.    The fantastic thing is that it’s not too late for anyone to make this transformational change.

 

Last week, I wrote about living our “what ifs” and 9 ways to start taking action towards living them (https://www.goodandkindcompany.com/9-simple-ways-to-start-taking-action-towards-living-your-what-ifs/).  I received some great feedback from people who shared their own “what ifs” with me and the changes they are implementing to realize their goals.  Thank you!!  Every single one of us has different “what ifs”.  Choose those that add to your personal growth and then start taking action.  Choose to forgive someone, to reach out to someone you’ve been thinking of, to be more loving to yourself and others, to face a fear, to start that project, to be more kind, to compliment yourself and others more, to be more respectful, to celebrate more, to have spontaneous fun, to understand more, to live with less, to laugh more, to not judge others, to listen more and talk less, to see the beauty in the world, to speak positively, to be more compassionate. Choose to BE THE “GOOD”.

 

 

When we choose to “BE THE GOOD” and live with compassion and kindness, people change, awesome happens, thinking changes, spirits soften, opportunities reveal, healing happens, situations change, connection happens, hope appears and love happens. – Caron Keens

 

Kindness and compassion affects the recipient of the act, the doer of the act, the observers, those who hear about it, those who read about it, those who share it and those who watch it on TV or social media.  The ripple effect just keeps going and going, spreading all that super cool rockin’ awesomeness to those in its path. Now that’s something good worth celebrating!

Thoughts Become THings

Together in good changes,

Caron

We all need something good to believe in.

We all need something good to believe in.  Something that gives us hope and joy.

 

Whether you believe in god, unicorns, angels, miracles, Santa, the goodness of humanity, the Tooth Fairy, a divine being, the Easter Bunny, magic, infinite spirit, fairies and pixie dust, prayer, the power of kindness, superheroes, a universal life force or a combination of any of these or others, we all need something good to believe in.

This past week while many of us were celebrating the Christmas season with family and friends, the young son of a friend of mine in New Zealand was fighting for his life after a near drowning incident.  Hundreds of us from around the world joined together as a community and sent prayers, healing and light to baby Eli and the family.  Most of us have never physically met but we all connected in a higher purpose and for the greater good.  We may not have been able to “see” but we certainly “felt” the powerful collective energy we were all sending.  Baby Eli is truly a miracle and we all continue to send blessings to him and the family.

 

Believe in something that builds up the human spirit, connects people in kindness and compassion, sends out joy into the world, and makes hope possible.

 

Believe and then be the change my friends.

 

Together in taking action for good changes,

Caron

Read about the miracle of Eli (#EliTheWarrior) and how you can help the family by clicking the link below:

https://www.facebook.com/9NewsPerth/videos/1154706144541544/

You can choose this!

Consider how awesome it is that at any moment, we can choose our thoughts, our words, our actions, our reactions, our attitudes, our opinions.  Do feelings, emotions and beliefs affect these choices?  Absolutely!  Don’t deny what you are feeling – EVER.  Suppressed feelings will eventually come out one way or another – and not usually how we want (or expect).

Learning to have awareness, to recognize how we are feeling is a huge step in being able to better manage our personal situations.  It provides us with an opportunity to step back, reflect, make a choice and take action, whether that action is to change something or not.

 

 

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

-Wayne Dyer

 

We all have stories; we all face challenges and triumphs; we all experience our own version of sadness, joy, fear and happiness; we all need to be celebrated, appreciated, respected and encouraged.  Although we are each on our separate paths, we are really together in the journey.  Let’s do our best to make it wonder(full) for ourselves and each other.

 

To choices of love and peace,

Caron

Choose gratitude and things change.

The picture that I have used to create my graphic for this post was captured a few days ago by our special friend Sandy Gerow.  It was taken overlooking Jackfish Lake in Saskatchewan, Canada as the sun was rising on a crisp and beautiful November morning.  The sky was changing so quickly that there were just a few seconds before the scene changed from this stunning masterpiece to the next creation of wonder(full).  How quickly things can change in life……

I’m quite certain that most of you reading this will know how quickly things can change.  You have most likely experienced life changing moments.  I know I have; some good, and some well, they haven’t been so good.  We all have our beautiful moments of awesome, our own versions of a “s#*t show” and everything in between.  Anyone who can relate to this, raise your hand and say “I” or “aye” or “eh” or whatever feels appropriate.

 

A popular quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer reminds us that “when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change”.  This encourages us to see things differently, through a new set of eyes.  This is why gratitude is so important in our lives; it truly is life changing.  I have written about gratitude a few times before and I will continue to do so.  Make the time to appreciate and celebrate the amazing gifts in life that are right in front of you and often taken for granted.  Family, friends, health, opportunity, choice, freedom, a sunrise, love, a sunset, shelter, food, purpose, water, employment, peace.  When we face challenges, it will be some of these gifts that will help get us through.  Reach out in kindness and compassion to those who are in need because one day you may be the person needing that support.

 

Today is November 11, Remembrance Day.  Take the time today to respect and honour those who have served and those who continue to serve.  Take the time to send love and compassion to their friends and family.  Take the time to remember and acknowledge them any time, any day, wherever, whenever, everyday, not just today.  There are no rules for expressing appreciation and gratitude to anyone, simply give it freely and sincerely with pure intention.  This is how we connect to each other as human beings, how barriers are eliminated and how things shift for the better in our world.

 

This powerful image of an ever changing sunrise reminds me that things can change in an instant and we never really know what is coming our way next.  Yet, quite often those not so good changes and challenges provide us with lessons, epiphanies and an opportunity for positive growth.

 

Choose gratitude.  Choose kindness.  Choose compassion.

 

As always….together in the journey,

Caron

What do you “represent”?

Many of you know that we have spent the past year living in Hawaii.  This was a positive life changing experience for us in ways that were so unexpected.  I have started to write a book where I will share the stories of our journey and personal growth there.

 

We chose to take the opportunity while we were there to immerse ourselves as much as possible into the Hawaiian culture and the way of “aloha”.  This choice brought many amazing and inspirational people into our paths and one of them in particular inspired this article.

This friend was talking to us about the word “represent”.  In Hawaii, it is said that you “represent” when you are a good ambassador for the Hawaiian Islands, you stand up for what it good and righteous, you respect the people, the culture, the land, the environment, you live in peace and love, and of course, in aloha.  This beautiful conversation with him made me think deeper about the word “represent” and what it means to me, hopefully to you and to all of humanity.

 

What do you “represent”?

 

  • Do you represent kindness or selfishness?
  • Do you represent compassion or judgement?
  • Do you represent love or hatred?
  • Do you represent optimism or pessimism?
  • Do you represent hope or doubt?
  • Do you represent understanding, learning, growing, improving?
  • Do you represent joy or bitterness?
  • Do you represent equality or difference?
  • Do you represent forgiveness or blame?
  • Do you represent peace or discord?
  • Do you represent happiness or despair?
  • Do you represent believing or denial?
  • Do you represent respect or criticism?
  • Do you represent appreciation or disregard?

 

We all have a choice about what we “represent”.  What we are known for, how people feel when they are around us, how people react to us, our behaviour, our habits, our “essence”.

 

Creating positive change starts with ourselves first, it always has. 

 

We can do this through our thoughts, our words and our actions.  Do the best you can with where you are in your life right now – it’s never too late.  The powerful (and magical!) thing is that once you choose to create positive change and “represent” in your own life, you will inspire others to do the same.  Then I believe this world will be a much better place for all of us.

 

These are exciting times my friend and I celebrate YOU!

 

Together in the journey,

Caron

A new day is a gift for you. Here are some reasons why…

If you are reading this, one thing is for sure….you woke up today!  You’re alive and you’re here to live another day.  I consider that a gift.  Here are a few reasons why I believe a new day is a gift:

 

  • We have the opportunity to be a better version of the person we were yesterday.  That’s the only person we should try to be better than; the person we were yesterday.
  • We have the chance to be kinder in our words and in our actions.  Kinder to our friends, to our family, to the people who cross our path and want to be noticed.
  • We have the privilege of doing something good for the world.  Whether it’s volunteering, waving, letting someone in the lane in front of us, smiling, picking up litter, carrying out someone’s groceries, donating however you can, leaving a big tip, recycling, taking the time to chat with a stranger, listening and seeking to understand, practicing empathy, compassion and respect, passing along compliments and words of encouragement, promoting good news stories instead of negative, paying for someone’s coffee or meal, bringing attention to causes or organizations making a positive difference, starting our own cause to promote an issue that needs attention in the world, practicing non-judgement, hugging, sharing in a laugh.
  • We have the chance to make amends, come to an understanding, make peace with or apologize for something that happened before.  Do not live with regrets on this one!
  • We have the opportunity to experience something new that we have been postponing for whatever reason.  This could include volunteering, eating healthier, going on a road trip, visiting new places, getting rid of some of our stuff that no longer serves us, slowing down and realizing that’s okay, taking action on a self improvement initiative, finding a new job, trying out a new recipe or signing up for cooking lessons, taking a new route for our daily walk or run, singing in our car with the windows down, realizing that we need (!) want singing lessons and signing up for them, not watching TV for a whole day and enjoying the peace and clarity that brings, starting a blog, making new friends and building new relationships, reconnecting with friends and family that we miss, distancing ourselves from friends and relationships that do not serve us, breaking out in impromptu dance sessions in public, going on an adventure, learning a new sport or hobby or pursuing a talent.

Moving forward and living life with passion and gratitude = THRIVING.

  • We have the honour to experience something again or try something we did before with a new perspective.  Witnessing a sunrise and sunset, making memories and sharing dreams with friends and family, talking about old memories with friends and family, playing cards with seniors, enjoying youthful fun with children and grandchildren, playing outside, doing cartwheels (I did this 2 days ago!), revisiting places we have been to, watching for falling stars, looking for the big and little dipper, re-reading books that inspire or educate, listening to our favourite music from our past.
  • We have the chance to rethink, redo, retry.  Maybe some things didn’t go quite the way we planned, maybe we made some poor choices or bad decisions, maybe we feel that luck is not on our side, maybe we feel defeated, stuck or lost.  Who hasn’t?  Reach out to a person or a support group who can help with the transition through your challenges.  Another day provides us with the chance to think differently, to see things differently, to do things differently or perhaps to get rid of some ideas all together and try a whole other plan of action.  Now there’s an opportunity!

 

Here’s to a new day.  It’s another gift.  I hope you think so too!

 

Be calm & THRIVE ON,

Caron