You are an important part of the YOUNIVERSE!

It’s so fantastic to really consider the special part that each of us plays in the youniverse.  Every single one of us.

Do you ever stop and think about the many people who have crossed your path, who know someone that you know, who have been somewhere you have been, who like the same things you do?  Have you ever met people that you feel you’ve met before?  Oh yeah.  It happens in the most random places, at the most random times and circumstances when you take the time to have a dialogue with another human being.

 

Have you ever had a conversation with a person you just met and things go like this:  “No way!  You’ve got to be kidding.  You’re not going to believe this!”  I’m sure you have.  Woohoo, you have an instant bond and common connection with someone you hardly know.  Yep you do! This creates a positive shift in infinite ways and sends ripples of awesomeness EVERYWHERE…..far, further, farther than that far!  Because you are a very important part of the youniverse and so are they.

 

It’s really big out there, but we are all connected. 

 

We are all right here, right now, together.  That’s kinda cool, and presents all sorts of fun and interesting possibilities.  So get out there and make sure you take the time to talk.  To anyone, to everyone.  Be curious.  Be present.  Be brave.  Be non-judgemental.  Be compassionate.  Be understanding.  Be kind.  Be love.  Seek to understand.  Learn.  Grow.  Carry on.  Create some awesomeness in this amazing youniverse!

 

Can’t wait to meet YOU out there,

Caron

Hello…..it’s love, I’m here inside.

Prelude:  I am sending a special shout-out of awesome to the uber-talented Adele (and her team) for her amazing song and catchy tune.  These words came to me “just like that” while listening to her current hit “Hello” on a flight from Denver back to Canada…….

I recently attended and had the privilege of being one of the presenters at Love2016, a soul(full) retreat with 20 other women in the picturesque town of Breckenridge, Colorado.  Life has a magical way of nudging us in directions we never could have imagined, doesn’t it?  This was one of those opportunities that I can “feel” and “know” will be life changing.  I was finally able to meet with some women that I had only connected with from afar; to connect with new like-minded women and to create life-long friendships. The excitement and energy was beautiful!

 

Sara Ann, the founder and organizer of Love2016, deserves a standing ovation for this incredible event she dreamed of AND brought to life.  After she attended a lively and transformational event in Florida co-hosted by my special friend Leigh, Sara Ann knew she had a calling.  One of the beautiful attendees of Love2016 commented on how phenomenal it was that 21 people could be together, most not knowing one another and yet be so connected.

 

Love2016 was about learning how to love ourselves and others; celebrating and honouring ourselves and others; identifying, examining and releasing our blocks and fears; tapping into our joy; living in abundance; creating new stories; understanding the power of gratitude, kindness and forgiveness; identifying and respecting our uniqueness; relaxing, reviving and renewing.  All this happened through great presentations; engaging activities, done alone and in group settings; feeling supported, encouraged and “safe” to share; inspirational opening and closing ceremonies; a lot of fresh air; a lot of freedom to explore and to “just be”; a lot of tears; a lot of laughter; an amazing amount of hugs and a TON OF LOVE!!!  It simply does not get any better than that.  Shout-out of awesome, of goodness, of gratitude and of joy to you Sara Ann……from all of us.

 

What a wonder(full) life – we are each created of love and light.  Because of this we are all more connected than we realize.  Who will cross your path today?  Who can you reach out to today?  Who can you send love and light to?  I send it to me and I send it to YOU!

 

Together in the journey,

Caron

Why now is the time to C.A.R.E.

Do good.

Do the best you can, however you can, with what you have and where you are.

Be kind.

Be the positive change that you wish to see and experience in this world.

 

I am sure every one of you reading this will agree that there is too much violence, tragedy and hatred in the world.  Far too often there is something happening that affects people’s lives, causing pain, loss and suffering, and saddens us with disbelief, feelings of despair and heavy hearts.

 

At the same time we hear of, read and witness outpourings of love and a collective spirit of humankindness that offers hope, support and healing.  The positive power of people joining together from all over the world in compassion helps those who need it the most and also creates a bond of peace and unity that inspires us all.

Today, I want to send out an everyday reminder for each one of us.  Remember to C.A.R.E.TM.  Simple as that.  The word care itself implies attention, nurturing, thoughtfulness and sensitivity.  I created the C.A.R.E. TM acronym a few years ago which combines the words celebrate, appreciate, respect and encourage.  I strongly believe that if we can do the best we can everyday to take action and celebrate, appreciate, respect and/or encourage someone (that someone may be ourselves) then positive change happens.  It happens by changing the way we think, the way we feel about ourselves and others, the way we make others feel, the way we behave, the choices we make, the way we interact with others.  This is a start to creating good change in our own lives and in the lives of others.  This is the way we create positive change in the world because this type of movement has a ripple effect that knows no boundaries.  It breaks down barriers and connects us as human beings.  The best part is this is free; all it involves is belief, authenticity and action.

 

Here’s to creating hope, love, healing and peace for the people of our world.  Although it may seem that individually it is challenging or impossible to create good change, this is not true.  We may “feel” powerless, we may “feel” hopeless, we may “feel” insignificant, but this is not true either.  Do the best you can, however you can, with what you have and where you are.  Be the positive change you wish to see and experience in our world.  The day is today, the time is now and good happens……one action, one person at a time.

 

Together in the journey,

Caron

Start that good change TODAY!

Let’s talk about changes – good changes!

 

I have recently experienced a significant amount of change in my life.  Many of these have been transformational for me.  The most difficult thing we do with change is procrastinate!  Change itself is not hard. It’s what we “think about change” that makes us believe it is hard.  Once you take that first step you are on your way and believe me, the possibilities and opportunities that will come your way are amazing.

 

Some of the things we want to change in our lives have been lingering in our minds and hearts for a long time.  I can totally relate to this one.  Fear is such a limiting belief to most of us.  Fear of failure, fear of what others will think or say, fear not knowing enough, fear of losing control, fear of the unknown, fear of feeling to old or too young, fear of looking silly, fear of staying the same and for many, fear of change.

 

I am definitely a believer in the statement that it is never too late to make a change.  Too many people feel that they cannot break from their routine, expectations of society or the mindset that “this is always the way things have been done”.

 

Many of us dream, but don’t believe.  Many of us believe, but don’t dream. 

 

Many of us judge and don’t seek to understand.  Many of us follow and don’t believe we can lead.  Many of us silently “carry our sad and hurtful stories” and don’t realize that we can overcome or deal with them more effectively.  Many of us live our lives holding grudges and bitterness but want to forgive.  Many of us don’t realize how connected we all are as human beings.  Many of us are face down in our phones and are scared of human connection.

 

Many of us want more out of our lives but don’t know where to find what’s missing. 

 

I recently faced a huge fear of mine which was public speaking.  I have no idea where this fear came from but I do know that I went through most of my school years with this same fear.  PLEASE do not ask me to answer a question, PLEASE do not call me up to talk about this, maybe if I make no eye contact I will be safe from being asked to say something, yikes.  I hope some of you can relate to these experiences.  Fear of public speaking is proven to be one of the biggest fears that a majority of people have.  At 50, I finally decided to face this beast head on!  I joined Toastmasters in early July and finished my required 10 speeches in just over 2 months to complete my 1st manual, Competent Communicator.  I share this story with you because this was one of biggest fears that had been living within me for how many years?  Over 40!  That’s craziness.  I want to tell you what is even more ironic about this story.  I had an epiphany a few years ago that I wanted to be a public speaker.  I had no idea where this “calling” came from.  I just knew I wanted to inspire and create positive change, to share stories and lessons, to break down barriers and build connection, to encourage optimism and hope, to to help others rethink/redo/recharge/revive/refresh/ restart/reinvent, to do some dancing and laughing and singing and all those fun things that make us feel alive!  I am sharing one of my stories with you because my story can be anyone’s story.  I cannot begin to express to each one of you how liberating it is to take a leap, face a fear and conquer that big beast – and it was BIG and BURLY (well, to me it was!)  If I can do this, you can make any change you want to as well.  It is absolutely never too late.

I DID IT!

What good change would you like to make?  These changes can be small or big; the most important detail is that you just start – TODAY.

 

  • Live healthier – walk more, take the stairs, drink more water, better food choices, better eating habits, mindful breathing, mindful thinking
  • Forgive someone
  • (Re)connect with friends, family
  • Sort through your “stuff”, donate or sell, have “more with less”
  • Start that business, start that hobby, start that project, take that course, join that class
  • Talk less, listen more
  • Volunteer, give back
  • Ease off social media, connect with people face to face more
  • Watch less TV, read more
  • Fear less, love more
  • Doubt less, believe more
  • Encourage someone – anyone! Notice and encourage someone.  You both benefit.
  • Give thanks for something everyday
  • Complain less, celebrate accomplishments more
  • Judge less, reach out in compassion more
  • Show more kindness, the world needs it. Everyone benefits.
  • Travel more, wander, explore more, wonder
  • Be an optimist, the world has enough pessimists
  • Respect yourself more, criticize yourself less
  • Respect others more, criticize others less

 

I’m sure many of you have read quotes and heard people say: live for today, this moment is all we have, the only fear we have is of fear itself, love more/fear less, you are braver than you think, to name a few.  We read these things, but do we “believe them” and more importantly, do we “live them”?  I want to live them.  I want you to live them too.  I faced fear (one of the burly beasts that I had lingering around) and doors opened when I did this.  I am holding the door open for you my friends…..

 

Together in the journey,

Caron

Today is the perfect day for change. #change #positive #good #livelife #brave #facefear #befree #changemaker #encourage #celebrate #appreciate #goodandkind #awesome (13)

Simple coping techniques to deal with life’s challenges!

Yep, we all face challenges…..every single one of us.  Although we may feel lost during these times, our challenges connect us as human beings.  You are certainly not alone. 

 

When we are in the midst of a crisis, a hardship or an obstacle, we can feel very isolated, very afraid and very frustrated.  In a busy world that presents us with an overload of help and healing strategies, it can be overwhelming to find our way or sift through solutions in a rational way (at least, initially). 

 

I am going to provide you with some simple suggestions that

have helped me and many people close to me cope with challenges.

 

Even those who appear to have “everything”, are always happy, got it going on, and riding the wave of awesome have problems.  No one is immune from something coming their way that is unexpectedly challenging!  I’m sure that either you or someone you know has faced at least one and possibly several of these situations:  relationship problems, insecurity issues, financial trouble, health challenges, feeling stuck, looking for purpose, work overload, frustration with career or lack of, regret, anger, resentment, loss of loved one, fear of what others think, depression, substance abuse, lack of motivation, fear of change, fear of staying the same, growing older, not growing up quick enough, kids leaving home, kids coming back home, losing possessions, having too many possessions.  Just to name a few!

 

Quite often, small and simple changes can help us to find our way.  Here are some suggestions that have helped me and many people close to me cope with our own challenges/situations/roadblocks/issues:

 

  • Allow yourself to experience the emotions, feelings and thoughts associated with the challenge you are having. Don’t suppress or hide them…….because they will come out at some point.  Honour and respect how you are feeling.
  • Reach out to someone you can trust. Even if it’s just so that you can talk, vent or have your voice heard.  Let that person know that it’s okay for them to just listen and that you need a sounding board. 
  • If you are looking for advice or to brainstorm with someone, reach out for that purpose as well. Again, someone you can trust.  There may be people who unexpectedly reach out to you to provide comfort, or to listen or to be there for you – if it feels right, let them in!
  • Be upfront with people who do not have your best interest at heart or who are abrasive, non-comforting or when things “feel off”. Trust your judgement.
  • Allow yourself to be in a quiet place, outdoors in nature is best. Just be still, let whatever thoughts float through your mind to just come in and out, silence can be very healing.  If you are indoors, limit distractions (TV, social media, etc) so that you can experience stillness.  If music helps, let the tunes sooth your soul. 
  • Pay attention to your breathing. Deep, deliberate and slow.  Be mindful of the in and out breaths – “in” with “clarity & light”, “out” with “confusion & darkness”.
  • Sometimes, taking one day at a time is best. It may be over-whelming to make long term plans or have a strict timeline depending on the challenge you are facing. 
  • Celebrate your progress or accomplishments at moving forward, however small it may seem – please do this! Even if you are taking the “one day at time” approach. CELEBRATE & ACKNOWLEDGE!
  • Appreciate the people you have in your life, those who support you, encourage you and want to be in your circle of healing and support.
  • Write in a journal – your feelings, your emotions. Just let the words flow – don’t worry about it making sense.  Carry it with you to capture your thoughts passing through, especially when you don’t feel like talking to anyone or when there is no one around for you to talk to.  Writing in a journal is very therapeutic.
  • Exercise or get active however you can: walk, skip, run, hike, cartwheel, QiGong, somersault, dance, yoga, hula, hula hoop, pick your own favourite!
  • Visualize your situation differently – how that feels, how it sounds, how it looks…….everything about it. Just visualize, dream, believe (whichever word resonates best with you).  Visualize regularly and then take action.  Taking action may include really small steps, just take action regardless.
  • Do not judge anyone and how they are handling their life situations, just as you would not want someone to judge you. We all react differently, we all have different support systems, we all are on this journey together – BE KIND.
  • Access books, podcasts, websites, webinars, counsellors, etc that provide you with direction and guidance. Many of these resources are “FREE”!
  • You may find that some of the people who want to support you have the same or similar issue facing them. You may also find that you are offering support to another person.  You may just find that as you support and encourage this other person, that you have found the way to effectively handle your own challenge.  Yes, life can work in miraculous and magical ways.
  • PS – hugs work wonders!

 

Some challenges are very serious and require the expertise of trained professionals.  Please ensure that you reach out and get the support you need in a timely manner.  They are there to help you!

 

I thank you in advance for sharing this article and I hope that something I have mentioned helps you or someone you care about. 

 

As always…..together in the journey,

Caron

 

What do we have in common….

Do you ever meet someone and say to yourself……….I have nothing in common with this person.  We are totally different.  And you’ve no doubt heard that we should surround ourselves with like-minded people.  I’m all for that concept and it’s helped me immensely in personal development.  But I have also purposefully challenged myself to think about and notice what I have in common with others.  It can be quite awesome to really think about some things we all share.  Consider that you and the person crossing your path/sitting beside you/in line behind you, your co-worker, the stubborn teenager, the unmotivated employee, the grouchy person on the other end of the phone, the estranged person looking at you, the pessimistic friend, the withdrawn family member, etc:

  • We have the same amount of time in a day
  • We look at the same moon
  • We need food, water, clothing and shelter
  • We have felt joy, love, friendship, happiness, excitement, gratitude, experienced kindness, received a smile, breathed a sigh of relief…..at some point in our lives
  • We have been afraid, felt alone, failed at something, been disappointed, hurt, frustrated, betrayed, sad…..at some point in our lives
  • We can choose the words we say to ourselves and others
  • We can choose how we treat ourselves and others
  • We need to belong and to have someone who cares about us
  • Right at this very moment, all of us are alive together on this wonderful & awesome planet of wonder!
  • We can choose what we think about and focus on
  • We can choose what we dream about

And……the same amazing sun shines on each and every one of us!

Please be kind and do some good,

Caron

 

The same sun. #common #same #shine #good #love #peace #sun #kindness (2)

I’m doing IT. Are you doing IT?

Over 2 weeks into the a new year of  infinite possibilities for everyone.   I’m not much of a “New Year’s Resolution” person.  I find it easier to follow the habit of learning, improving and leading a purposeful and inspired life on a regular basis.  Be a better person than I was yesterday or at least … Read moreI’m doing IT. Are you doing IT?