Let’s talk about changes – good changes!
I have recently experienced a significant amount of change in my life. Many of these have been transformational for me. The most difficult thing we do with change is procrastinate! Change itself is not hard. It’s what we “think about change” that makes us believe it is hard. Once you take that first step you are on your way and believe me, the possibilities and opportunities that will come your way are amazing.
Some of the things we want to change in our lives have been lingering in our minds and hearts for a long time. I can totally relate to this one. Fear is such a limiting belief to most of us. Fear of failure, fear of what others will think or say, fear not knowing enough, fear of losing control, fear of the unknown, fear of feeling to old or too young, fear of looking silly, fear of staying the same and for many, fear of change.
I am definitely a believer in the statement that it is never too late to make a change. Too many people feel that they cannot break from their routine, expectations of society or the mindset that “this is always the way things have been done”.
Many of us dream, but don’t believe. Many of us believe, but don’t dream.
Many of us judge and don’t seek to understand. Many of us follow and don’t believe we can lead. Many of us silently “carry our sad and hurtful stories” and don’t realize that we can overcome or deal with them more effectively. Many of us live our lives holding grudges and bitterness but want to forgive. Many of us don’t realize how connected we all are as human beings. Many of us are face down in our phones and are scared of human connection.
Many of us want more out of our lives but don’t know where to find what’s missing.
I recently faced a huge fear of mine which was public speaking. I have no idea where this fear came from but I do know that I went through most of my school years with this same fear. PLEASE do not ask me to answer a question, PLEASE do not call me up to talk about this, maybe if I make no eye contact I will be safe from being asked to say something, yikes. I hope some of you can relate to these experiences. Fear of public speaking is proven to be one of the biggest fears that a majority of people have. At 50, I finally decided to face this beast head on! I joined Toastmasters in early July and finished my required 10 speeches in just over 2 months to complete my 1st manual, Competent Communicator. I share this story with you because this was one of biggest fears that had been living within me for how many years? Over 40! That’s craziness. I want to tell you what is even more ironic about this story. I had an epiphany a few years ago that I wanted to be a public speaker. I had no idea where this “calling” came from. I just knew I wanted to inspire and create positive change, to share stories and lessons, to break down barriers and build connection, to encourage optimism and hope, to to help others rethink/redo/recharge/revive/refresh/ restart/reinvent, to do some dancing and laughing and singing and all those fun things that make us feel alive! I am sharing one of my stories with you because my story can be anyone’s story. I cannot begin to express to each one of you how liberating it is to take a leap, face a fear and conquer that big beast – and it was BIG and BURLY (well, to me it was!) If I can do this, you can make any change you want to as well. It is absolutely never too late.
What good change would you like to make? These changes can be small or big; the most important detail is that you just start – TODAY.
- Live healthier – walk more, take the stairs, drink more water, better food choices, better eating habits, mindful breathing, mindful thinking
- Forgive someone
- (Re)connect with friends, family
- Sort through your “stuff”, donate or sell, have “more with less”
- Start that business, start that hobby, start that project, take that course, join that class
- Talk less, listen more
- Volunteer, give back
- Ease off social media, connect with people face to face more
- Watch less TV, read more
- Fear less, love more
- Doubt less, believe more
- Encourage someone – anyone! Notice and encourage someone. You both benefit.
- Give thanks for something everyday
- Complain less, celebrate accomplishments more
- Judge less, reach out in compassion more
- Show more kindness, the world needs it. Everyone benefits.
- Travel more, wander, explore more, wonder
- Be an optimist, the world has enough pessimists
- Respect yourself more, criticize yourself less
- Respect others more, criticize others less
I’m sure many of you have read quotes and heard people say: live for today, this moment is all we have, the only fear we have is of fear itself, love more/fear less, you are braver than you think, to name a few. We read these things, but do we “believe them” and more importantly, do we “live them”? I want to live them. I want you to live them too. I faced fear (one of the burly beasts that I had lingering around) and doors opened when I did this. I am holding the door open for you my friends…..
Together in the journey,